Thursday, December 11, 2008
If a relationship is a burden, why look for it in the very first place. Relationship is never a burden if you know how to treasure your relationship. There are loads of ingredients that always make a relationship last, even if its not forever but at least it last.
- Loads of communication
-Understanding
-Consideration
-Trust
-Commiment
-Appreciative
-Love
-Humor
-Honest
-Sharing
-Respect
-NO SECRETS.
All these are just the basics things that are needed in a relationship. Do not ever neglect her feelings. I mean of cause you can never please her in a way or two but at least treat her with respect is always a great deal in every relationship. If you love her and have all these basics in the relationship, then your relationship is never a burden but a gift that you will love to treasure. You will always be looking forward to coming home and be with her to spend you every single moment together.
Just remember the time and moments from how you both knew each other to the present days of your relationship . Share that moments with her, bring back the joy and laughter into the relationship. Those are the sweet memories that can never be erased or forgotten as far as the relationship is concern. Why am I saying all these? Because i realise that human relationship are so fraglie, today you say yes to the person you love then next week you decide to break up. How many times of breakup do you have to go through before fully understand what you want in that relationship, life is short why do we still want to stay on like this. The good ones dont usually come by so if you ever meet her hold on it her and never think of letting go her.
If you love that person, dont expect her to change for you. Let her be herself. Falling in love is for who she is not what you want her to be. Relationship is about interacting between both partner. Tell her what you like and what you dont like, dont dictate her life and the relationship. The more you dictate the more she wants out. Give her room and respect the privacy that she needs. Sometimes partners just want a little room to actually think and act, especially after a hard day at work. If she's not talking to you when she gets home, meaning there's something wrong somewhere. Let her rest and have a quiet time on her own. Soon, she'll sit next to you and apologise for ignoring your presence. I dont like to qus my darling too much, i will usually ask her twice about what she is thinking or how she is feeling. If the respone still the same i will give her time to think about it and let her be alone till she is ready to talk.
I told her about my way of taking care about relationship, i love to talk about things , i love to share the burden and happiness together. There are dos and donts in every relationship, but be rationale with everything that you decide whether for the dos and donts. Balance the both of them and everything will be just fine, do not over do it. Dont control her social life and dont be judgemental about her frens. That will lead to major arguments. As for me, i will usually ask her along to meet my frens, introduce her to them. Let her know my bunch of frens rather than be secretive, this is to let her know about my social life as well. My darling doesnt dictate me and the same goes for me, we know our responsibilities towards each other cause we value each other.
The bottomline is, appreciate her while u still can, you will never know when will you be able to find another good one again.
i skated in the lonely world ...quiet and undisturbed at
1:11 AM
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